By far the most interesting topic of discussion for both “practitioners” and abstinent forced by their beliefs or circumstances, sex is an immeasurable source of stories and “urban” myths that spread at a speed specific to the need for “sensationalism”, taking then its place comfortably in the collective mind.
From the men apostrophized because they think too much, too often and too uncensored about eroticism, to the idea that only size matters, the absurdities that pass as incontestable truths when it comes to carnal amour are very vast and numerous.
Popular beliefs focus in particular on the (apparently) different way in which women and men relate to this crucial aspect of life, gentlemen being usually depicted as true “primitives” obsessed with sex, while ladies as sensitive presences belonging to a clearly superior species, capable also of emotions, not just to flinch hormonally at the thought of an imminent act of genital interactions.
However, studies conducted in the field show that, by far, things are not as polarized as it may seem at a first glance and that, in certain situations, the slogans circulating about the subject at hand, depending on the gender of the protagonists, do not have too much in common with reality.
Here are some examples:
1.-Women think about sex less than men. Of course, at the level of social perception, gentlemen are declared winners when it comes to the daily time spent meditating on exciting themes. There is even a well-known theory, according to which, every seven minutes, an ordinary, potent or impotent, mediocre or virile male, instinctively thinks of sex and related facts.
Scientists' research, however, denies this hyperbolized scenario, without dismantling the hypothesis that men experience more often mental escapades in “forbidden” areas, compared to women.
Following a 2011 study in which representatives of both genders have been asked to keep a daily journal of such thoughts, it was revealed that testosterone undoubtedly “surpasses” estrogen, in the sense that the gentlemen’s thoughts are focused on subjects worthy of pornographic scenarios about 50% more than women’s. The same investigation indicates that this performance may not necessarily be due to the distinct male affinity for “mating” activities, but to the predilection of the stronger sex of paying much more attention than women do, to their biological needs (such as sleep or hunger), about which they think of as often as they think of intimacy.
2.-Women want fewer sexual partners than men. Myth says that men could have a different “match” every night and they still would not be bothered, on the contrary, while the feminine camp said they would be content with a small number of partners (just a good one, if possible). In other words, males are more interested in diversity, while females in stability.
Despite this, it has come to the conclusion that the problem is relative, since, asking him how many partners “in wildness” he wants, a man will give the answer that he thinks it is expected from him. The general idea that it is normal for a male to long for the multiple company of the ladies (thus also proving his virility) will be automatically taken over and presented as a personal wish, keeping this popular cliché alive.
The situation changes when the interviewees are “forced” to confess the truth and only the truth, being (fictitiously) connected to a so-called lie detector, in which case gentlemen completely give up their role of a true Don Juan, revealing their desire for a lower number of sex partners, equal to the one indicated by women too, often limited to... “a single one”.
3.-Women are interested in status, men are interested in sex. It is believed that attractiveness is what prevails when a man orients himself in choosing his partner, this being subliminally associated with good genes and healthy offspring. Women, on the other hand, might not seek physical handsomeness, but a strong economic status that would provide them with the necessary support.
These are in fact the theoretical priorities of both genders, sociological analyzes demonstrating that gentlemen hunt for beauty, and ladies for financial power or “rank”. But when finding themselves (ad-hoc) in front of a variety of potential partners, and told to choose a “pair” to their heart’s content, men and women do not show a differentiated interest in the opposite sex, giving priority to either attractiveness or income.
Even though theoretically things are well defined, practically everyone is attracted by a multitude of features of their soul mate, and they are not exclusively dependent on gender.
4.-Women experience orgasm less often than men. Even research seems to support the man's biological privilege of reaching orgasm more easily than the woman can do it (in his company or on her own). There is, however, a particularity of the distinct (conjectural) manner in which the two enjoy sexual climax. The respective finding, unfortunate for women, is true for one-night stands that bring final satisfaction to just a third of all those who enjoy such an occasional relationship (disappointing, it could be said, since men achieve “success” almost totally when put in similar situations).
If, however, a number of repeated adventures are taken into account, things seem somewhat encouraging, as half of the respondents say that they are able to experience orgasm. Even better news comes in the context of long-term commitments, where statistics show that women achieve orgasm by 79%. Although there is definitely room for improvement, the differences are not, as a matter of fact, as grim as it is being rumored, and the ladies seem that they can also taste (quite often), with lust and to the end, the fruit of love.
5.-Women are less likely to be involved in occasional relationships than men. From rigorous scientific experiments to actual and less formal “enactments”, such as those videos that have become viral, with men accepting sex proposals from various females strangers on the street, all the evidence seems to suggest that males have no problem in initiating or getting involved in occasional affairs, while women are extremely reluctant to do so.
One of the first conducted studies indicates that 70% of the men approached by persons of opposite sex and close age, responded positively to proposals, unlike the women included in the research that have shown themselves 100% disinterested in the prospect of unexpected acquaintances (not verified over a long time through the filter of their own demands).
Scientists say, however, that the explanations do not depend so much on the genetic predispositions of individuals, but on certain determinant cultural factors. For example, a greater openness to respond positively to “inappropriate” proposals is found even among younger or older ladies, but only when they are “courted” by men relatively familiar to them, or extremely attractive and impossible to refuse.
Also, the differences in availability between women and men fade until disappearance when they are asked whether they would spend or not the night in the company of one of their favorite celebrities.
6.-Women are more capricious than men. With regard to the infinite feminine “needs” that men often invoke to justify their celibacy, specialists say that they are more circumstantial than tributary to the women's internal structure.
According to conducted research, it was concluded that people are generally less demanding when they make the first move and, therefore, particularly rigorous when they are in the position of being approached.
Starting from this theory and taking into account the fact that traditionally the initiative belongs to the man, one can understand why the ladies “allow” themselves to raise the level of their individual expectations to an altitude impossible to reach by any ordinary mortal who gravitates towards them.